Monthly Archives: February 2014

“You must experience failure to appreciate success”

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(Yes…I do get these from fortune cookies so don’t blame me. I Blog’em as I get’em)

Who likes failing at something, raise your hand… Oh, oh, oh… me, me, me… I do, I do, I do!!! NOT!!!  Let’s face it. No one likes to fail at anything. And no one likes to admit failing at anything. We equate that with losing. And who likes to lose? I had the pleasure of coaching my grandson basketball team the passed few months.( I know, hard for you to believe I’m a grandfather of a 10 year old) We had a very good season but lost yesterday in the semi-finals of the playoffs. These are 9, 10, & 11 year old boys. They were pretty down about it. And so was I. Now, losing usually does equate with failure. It’s not a really good feeling either. You can say all the things like… Hey, you gave it a good try… Maybe next time… etc. Still doesn’t feel good.  So I guess one way not to fail is not to do anything. Get it. The only people that real don’t fail are the ones that stay inside their comfort zone. There’s our old friend again…THE COMFORT ZONE! Sounds like something on the Sci-fi  channel. Do you realize that all of the greatest minds and people that have excelled and stood out from the rest in their respectful fields had to deal with the “F” word. And most likely many times before, during, and after they have experienced success. Successful people are successful because they do more things that increase the probabilities that they will achieve the success they want. The probabilities say that if you try enough things in the right ways (enough times), eventually you’ll end with the results you want. And that’s where the appreciation comes into play. We didn’t win that game because the other team worked harder then we did. We experienced failure. So I guess they won’t be playing basketball anymore, right?  NO!!! WRONG!!! I know that some of these kids are itching to play again and increase their chances of success. And the ones that work harder will experience that success. I’m sure they will experience some setbacks a long the way, also.

Give up or push forward

What do you think happens to the majority of people over time?  Most people give up over time… or even before they get started. Maybe because of past failures or setbacks. I know I have done it myself in the past. But there is hope. I think the key to achieve whatever it is you are looking for is not that you have to be the smartest, or most outgoing, or most popular(although that may help). The biggest thing is to not give up. But realize that those failures or challenges are going to rear their ugly heads every now and then. Use them as motivation to push forward and then when success happens you can throw your hands up in the air and say “ You know, it wasn’t easy, I thought many times to just quit but I stuck with it, and look, I beat the odds.” Now how do you think you will feel about yourself? I think pretty good. Go ahead… pat yourself on the back… you deserve it! So failure is really not a bad thing after all, is It? Hope you can answer that with a NO!

Time to Wok n Woll, Baby!

 May all your cookies have good fortunes

Bernie Pic           bernie7

“Where have all the Heroes gone”

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This post is a little unusual (even for me) today because it didn’t come out of a fortune cookie… but maybe it should have. February 20 is the  anniversary date of the passing of my father. For those of you who are baby boomers, you can probably relate to this. For those of you who are not, shut up and listen. Because our parents were the greatest generation that ever lived. Tom Brokov wrote a book about them and I highly recommend that you read it. The book highlights some of the extraordinary events that this generation was a part of in the earlier years of the 20th century. They survived  hardship and hunger thru the Great Depression. They fought and saved the world from tyranny and devastation during WWII. They literally built a nation with their bare hands and relentless determination. And what we have today, all the conveniences and life style, we owe to them. But the most important thing they gave us was the example of how to be human beings. They taught us manners. They taught us how to respect and treat others. Responsibility for your actions…  and consequences if those actions weren’t the correct ones. They never had any feelings of entitlement. They believed in earning what you have and if you don’t have enough… work a little harder. They believed in God and country. Family was the bond that kept the whole thing together. Dad earned the living…Mom stayed at home and ran the household and kids. Vacations were simple but always something to look forward to. There was no complaining, just grateful and appreciative for what they had. A far cry from this fast-paced, high-tech world we live in today. We have everything we could possibly want and still an unhappy and ungrateful bunch we have become. I look back and wonder how did they get through the day to day grind, through the hard times, through life itself. They were a tough breed, much tougher than we can ever pretend to be. I don’t think any other generation now or in the future will ever have the strength and more importantly the guts to do what this generation of people has done. And the sad part is that it is coming to an abrupt end. Thousands of these people are dying on a daily basis and soon a legacy will be gone… let’s just hope not forgotten. So if you are a baby boomer and lucky enough to have a parent or both around, or if your grandparents are of this era in history and still here, do yourself a favor.. sit down and ask them about their past, when they were young and took on the world. You might just learn a little. The last few months with my father were some of the most memorable when I really got to know him and what he went through, not complaining, but in a very proud and passionate tone. And I will miss him and my mom for the rest of my life. Someone once said that our parents are our greatest treasure. Their spirit will live on in us if we let it. Don’t throw that treasure away. We still need heroes.

May all your cookies have good fortunes

Bernie Pic           bernie7

The Greatest Generation

“Your winsome smile will be your sure protection”

 

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Ok. What the heck are they trying to say here? I was really scratching my head on this one. Remember… I get these right out of the fortune cookie so I’m pretty much stuck with the new “topic” as it comes. So I had a stroke of genius… a brainstorm, as opposed to a brainfart. We’re in the 21st century for goodness sake. There’s an App for that! So I go to my trusty iPhone, and sure enough… the Webster dictionary App is staring me in the face. So I look up winsome : a childlike charm and innocence. Cheerful, lighthearted. I’m sure all of us know  someone ( or probably more than one person) who just is miserable, negative, and downright mean. They look like they just bit into a piece of dog crap.

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              I mean the type of person that lights up a room… when they leave! Rude, nothing nice to say about anyone or anything. Their life sucks and they want to bring you and everyone else down with them. I hate cliches but the one that stands out the most and holds true time and again is “Misery loves company”. And it’s hard to get away from it and easy to get caught up in it because it’s all around us. So what do you do and how do you change people’s attitude? You don’t… you change your attitude. People are people, they have a certain mindset that has been instilled in them over a period of time and you are not going to dislodge that from them. Who the heck are you anyway? People are going to think, feel, and act as they choose. But guess what… you can choose, too! You can choose to be a beacon of sunshine. You can choose to be positive. You can choose to be upbeat. And it starts with a smile. It’s very difficult to be unhappy if you are smiling. Try it. I’m not talking about some fake smile. Find something that you are truly happy about and makes you feel good. And let the smiling begin. Now, smile at people you meet. They cannot help but smile back. I do this all the time. Even people that I know are miserable ( with the exception of a small few) usually smile back. Pretty simple, huh? It is simple, just takes some time. Make a habit out of smiling. It won’t hurt.        smiler

 

So how is it your sure protection?

Another head scratcher. So I went to my Funk n Wagnell (actually Webster App) and looked up the word protection: a contraceptive device, as a condom. I’m not gonna use that definition. Another one was: immunity from…  Let’s stick with that one, ok? So how is your winsome smile going to protect you. My car just broke down… I need a new furnace… My girlfriend/boyfriend just dumped me. I don’t think that’s what they are talking about. You are going to have challenges whether you are a miserable or a happy person. The only people who don’t have challenges are dead!  Sorry to be blunt but it’s true. It’s how you approach those challenges (attitude) that makes the difference. Some train of thought( I’m talking Law of Attraction stuff here) actually and factually teach that you can bring good or bad upon yourself, depending on your thinking, which has to do with your mindset,  thinking positive or negative. Much harder to be negative if you are smiling and lighthearted. But everyone out there is negative. No…Not everyone. But you will attract more people to you. And maybe some of the right people. Little story… I have a friend of mine a few years back. Never smiled, everyone and thing sucked. Hated his job, never tried to improve or learn. Just a terrible attitude. So I said, “You know, maybe if you changed your outlook, took a little more pride in what you are doing, a little less mopey, someone who is someone might notice and give you a shot at what ever it is you are looking for”. He basically told me I was full of it and said his attitude will change when his position in life changes. Now that makes sense, right? I think it works the other way around. That was about 20 years ago. He’s still not a happy person. But he’s not a bad person either. So I believe your winsome smile, your positive attitude, your attractive personality, will protect you from the negative, rude, and obnoxious individuals out there that are trying to bring you down to their level. Remember, you can’t change them and don’t even try. But you can change you.

Happiness is not something ready made… it comes from your own actions.   – 14th Dalai Lama

Time to Wok n Woll, Baby!

May all your cookies have good fortunes!

Bernie Pic          bernie7

” A Healthy Body Will Benefit You Forever “

 

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Let me make clear that I’m not in any way, shape, or form an expert in health, physical fitness, nutrition, or any other area along those lines. If anyone is looking to start any type of physical or nutritional plan  they should seek the advice of the proper person(s) in these fields.
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The holidays have past once again, and here we are in a new year. The #1 New Year resolution is… ( drum roll, please), you guessed it, dieting, fitness, getting healthy, anything along those lines. Gym memberships rise, exercise equipment is flying out of the stores, and everyone is on the latest and greatest diet plan.  Here we are, the beginning of February and the majority of people have drop those ideas of health and fitness like a power lifter drops the 550 lb. barbell. Hey you don’t have to tell me about that. I get knocked off that horse too. I’ve never really had an issue with weight or health. I’ve always been active enough to pretty much keep the pounds in check over the years… until recently. I think the past 4-5 years I’ve naturally slowed down a bit. My physical activities at work have lessened, and for one reason or another, my workouts ( I swim for exercise) have lessened, which is totally my fault. Plus, as a good friend told me, low “T”… if I hear one more commercial about low “T” I’ll……. sorry, got off on a tangent. This is probably a sore subject with a lot of people but one that needs to be addressed. Again, who am I to speak on the subject? Not an expert, but that was the fortune that came out of the cookie this week so I’m stuck with the subject.  Anyway, I’m excited to talk about this because if you really think about it, this is probably one of the only areas of your life that you have total control over. I’m gonna say that again… see the previous sentence. And more good news! I think if you can conquer and control this, other areas of your life will become much more easier to overcome. And I’ll give you my opinion on why I believe this and see if it makes sense to you. Because when you feel good physically and healthwise about yourself, it spills over into other areas of your life because you are more confident.  And you can truly gauge your success and see pretty much immediate results if… and this is a BIG IF, you stick with it. I don’t think it really matters what eating plan, or exercise plan, or nutritional plan you follow as long as you follow it on a consistent basis and don’t punk out and quit. But if you do, the good news is, you can start it back up again and pretty much immediate. What it really is gonna take is getting out of your Comfort Zone, as I said in previous post. I started this Blog to get out of my Comfort Zone. I need nutrition and fitness and exercise just as much if not more than some of you. So this is a little fire up my butt, too. Because when I opened this fortune cookie and saw the saying, I said time to get my ass in gear! I’m approaching my mid fifties (Holy Crap!!!) and I want my quality of life to be good if and when I reach my golden years. That’s not gonna happen if I wait till those years to start taking care of myself. No one lives forever but my goal is to die healthy… that’s actually a little sarcasm. Or there’s the other train of thought… Live fast, die young, and leave a good looking corpse… nah, I’ll choose the former, not the latter.
What next…
So walk, run, swim, bike, choose healthier foods, eat a little less, or more of the good things. Probably best if you find a buddy to do whatever it is you choose to do it with. This way you can keep each other accountable. Makes it less of a chore, too. You only have one body, don’t abuse it. Take care of yourself and see how it will absolutely change your life. I have a goal to go swimming minimum 3 times a week.Set some small, achievable goals for yourself like I’m gonna workout so many days a week… I’m gonna choose healthier foods. And make some positive affirmations (you can write them down so you can see them daily)
like, I AM eating the right foods… I AM in the best shape of my life!  Take the first steps and be consistent with it. They say it takes 21 days to establish a habit ( good or bad). Let’s start today!!! Some good reading on this is here
TO BE CONTINUED!!!
Time to Wok  n Woll, Baby!
May all your cookies have good fortunes!    
Bernie Pic                         bernie7