Monthly Archives: April 2014

“Happiness is not Pleasure, it’s Victory”

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So what is happiness? And what is it that makes you happy? It’s probably different for different people. It could be an activity that you do. Or your work. Maybe a relationship. Having money or material possessions. Some of the above. All of the above. I guess happiness is just a state of being. Something inside you that says you are in the right place, at this moment, doing whatever it is that is making you feel good. Let’s face it… we don’t live in a perfect world and there is plenty out there to distract, annoy, and just make you feel not so good. But you do have a choice. And I think that is what most of the Blogs I’ve been posting is about… choices. Because your attitude is really one of the only things, if not the only thing you truly have control over. You can choice to be happy or miserable.  Does that sound too simple? Well, if it’s so simple than why isn’t everyone happy? Remember, I said simple, not easy. There are probably many different reasons for “why”. But ultimately it comes down to us.  It starts with YOU!!!  You can choose to be happy in your daily living or not. I think the reason more are not happy in their lives is because they follow or listen to others. It’s easy to do. And we all know that negative multiplies faster than positive. Misery loves company! And it’s easy to fall into that pattern. Being positive takes more effort, and who wants to put out more effort? So what to do? Don’t follow the Followers! Again, simply…not so easy. We need to be our own person… not someone else. And you need to be comfortable in your own skin. Like yourself for God’s sakes! Your not so bad. Maybe a little rough around the edges but so what. I just read on Facebook, I think, someone posted about things to do or not to do to become successful and one is don’t talk bad about yourself. We can all stop doing that. That IS easy!!!  Why would you bad mouth yourself. So it does start with YOU. See… I’m pretty frickin smart, right?  I know, again simple, not easy… but Victory does not always come gift wrapped, we have to work at it… so get to work, be happy, and enjoy the spoils of that Victory!!!  And be HAPPY!!! Like the song says…

Time to Wok n Woll, Baby!

May all your cookies have good Fortunes!

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” Your observations are useful to others “

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No one real likes to be critiqued. Let’s face it… we all think that we are in the right and whatever we are doing is the right thing or the correct manner at which we are doing it. So no one really needs your opinion or advice, right?  I guess it comes from all those years of parenting when it is a necessity to lay our advice, guidance, and rules on our children to guide them in the correct direction. But that just applies to our children, not to others we interact with on a daily basis, right? I mean no one wants to be nosy, or butt into other people’s business or even correct them when they are wrong. Let’s face it, many would be offended if not downright pissed off at you if you put in your 2 cents. So, what do we do and how do we correct these matters and people?

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Maybe we don’t correct people. Maybe we build trust first. I’m not saying it’s yours or my place to observe people’s behavior and correct them as needed. Why would we. But, also some of us may be in a position, as in at work, business, etc., that if something goes wrong because of certain individual’s actions, then it needs to be addressed. Does that make any sense to anyone.   Back to building trust.  Before anyone will take “advice” or even listen to you, you have to build trust with them. I find, myself, the best way is to do this is to concentrate on the good. Observe what others are doing and pick out the good things and point them out to others. ” Hey, that’s a nice shirt you have on.  That presentation you made was awesome. I like the way you did that job.”   And my all time favorite… “Hey, you look good… are you losing weight?”  ( If it applies) Get it. I’m not saying flatter them with something false. Pick out something good and positive as to what they did or a certain characteristic  they display and praise them for it. A few kind words can really go a long way. Try it. Most people will be appreciative, some won’t.  That’s how your observations can be useful to others. Make yourself of value to others not by lambasting them but by being kind and helpful.

We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone. ”   –  Ronald Reagan

Time to Wok n Woll, Baby!

May all your cookies have good fortunes!

Bernie Pic         bernie7

“Sometimes… Money cost too much”

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Money, money, money!!! Gotta have it. Can’t live without it. I guess that holds true today as much as it has throughout history. People are always pursuing and accumulating ( or at least trying ) money. Songs are sung about it… movies are made about it… books are written about it. And why? Well ya Dummy! Just try to go somewhere, do something, or eat without it!!! Thanks for the answer. That’s not what I meant by asking why. Why the pursuit, why the fixation, why the whatever it takes to gather as much as we can? Remember, the phrase from the bible… Money is the root of all evil. It actually is the love of money that is bad. At what expense are we willing to go to to satisfy our “craving” for money. Let me explain. I know we all need money to a certain degree, to live, eat, travel, take care of the family, etc. I don’t believe one bit that money is bad. Money is a tool, an object, a means to an end, whatever that end might be. And I believe and am grateful that we live in a society where we are not limited to the amount we can make. If limits are put on income, than that is Socialism, dare I say, and that is bad. That takes incentive away to do better. The only true limits are the ones we put on ourselves. Hell, I wanna make as much money as I can, but not for selfish reasons.

Would you get to the point already

Thanks… sometimes I run off at the mouth. Anyway, back to the title of today’s Blog. At what cost are we willing to accumulate money?  I’m old fashion. I still believe there is right and wrong in the world. Good and evil. And there is right and wrong in your pursuit of money, too. To paraphrase a friend of mine, ‘ Money just makes you more of what you already are… if you’re a good person, money will make you a great person, if you’re a jerk…well…   You figure the rest of that sentence out. So, which are you? The Bugs Bunny cartoon episode comes to mind when Daffy Duck and Bugs find the Magic lamp and Daffy disregards the “rules” of the lamp. And the Genie of the lamp appears and says… Duck, you have desecrated the spirit of the lamp… prepare to accept the consequences! To which Daffy replies… Consequences, Schmonsequences… as long as I’m rich!!!  Now Daffy had a total disregard for the rules ( right and wrong). And there are consequences for wrong. And don’t think there isn’t. There needs to be a balance in what you do. If not, there is a price to pay. Whether it’s your health, your relationships, your character or all of the above. Don’t let money rule your life. Go out and do good with it. Help someone, give to a good cause, feed the hungry. That’s what money can do. When we take our eyes off of ourselves good things often happen. So if it’s money you want, want it for the good you can do with it… not for what you can gain from it.  You’ll have a much happier, healthier life!

“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.”      – Albert Einstein

Time to Wok n Woll, Baby!!!            money

May all your cookies have good fortunes!

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